I need what?!?
Newborn babies are so small, and yet that big box retailer
around the corner would have you believe the list of things you need is never-ending. So I will give you a list of what we needed and what
we did without (a ton!) We have definitely made do with the minimalist
approach! Save some money, and avoid buying something until you are absolutely
sure you need it!
What we didn’t need/ haven’t bought:
1)
A stroller – seriously! After we spent some time
in China we decided we were going to try to get by without one (because not
very many people had one over there) and so far we haven’t needed it. (We do
have a jogger, but I will get to that)
2)
Play mat/gym thingy – I am not even sure what
they are called, but we didn’t buy one, and I don’t think T feels like she
missed out!
3)
Exersaucer - We didn’t buy one for three big
reasons. 1- we didn’t have space 2- some studies show that too much time in them can be bad for their
hips. 3- that is a ton of plastic that will end up in the landfill!
4)
Bouncer – Again, we didn’t have space, but we
did just fine without it!
5)
Swing – Some parents will swear by these, but
again, we did just fine without one.
6)
The bumbo chair (I think this is what it is
called) – Your child will learn to sit up just fine without it, I promise!
7)
Wipe warmers and special trash cans for dirty
diapers - We just have a wicker basket with a waterproof liner. If you really
want warm wipes, you could always keep an old coffee thermos that spits out
water with warmed water ready for a dry washcloth.
8)
Crib bedding set. I am actually not sure why these
are even sold anymore when the general
consensus states that the bumpers are dangerous.
9)
Shoes – Okay you might want one or two pair of
soft-soled shoes for pictures, but don’t go overboard, because they can just
wear socks until they start walking!
10)
Bottle warmers-we just use warm water out of the
tap in a glass jar to warm milk when we need to, and many kiddos don’t mind it
cold!
What we have needed/used the heck out of:
1)
Her carseat. This is one area that we really
didn’t want to skimp on. We chose one that was Oeko-tek certified because many
of them are toxic, and we knew she would be spending lots of time in it
2)
A glider - God bless the person who invented
this chair. It was really helpful when T was fussy and I wanted somewhere
comfortable to nurse her. We bought it used on Craigslist. Eventually I am
going to make a new cushion for it – another post!
3)Changing table – Again, many people find it unnecessary,
but we still change almost every single diaper on it. Our absurdly large pile
of cloth diapers needs an organization system. If you were using disposables
you could probably get by without one. On another note, we did buy it used on
Craigslist for $20.
4)
A good crib and mattress - We didn’t want to buy
our crib used because of the numerous recalls, but also because we really
wanted a crib made with non-toxic
materials. We didn’t want off-gassing of VOCs while munchkin was dreaming of
sugar plum fairies. We did however, buy her organic mattress used. It cost
about $600 new, and I figured anyone that would spend that much on a mattress,
probably took care of it.
5)
Highchair – Some people just go straight to the
booster seat when they start solids, but we found a highchair that is
completely recyclable, and it was a good deal (even if it is neon green!) T likes sitting in it while I am making dinner
and what not.
6)
Video monitor – many people may say they aren’t
necessary, but we love ours (even in our tiny two story duplex). I have also
been able to mow the lawn with it while she was sleeping and keep a constant eye
on her. You probably want a monitor of some sort.
7)
A good breast pump. Even though I only work a
few hours a week, having a good breast pump makes it that much easier to pump
milk for when I will be gone. Further, it makes it easier to pump in my short
break at work!
8)
A jogger – we found the super jogger used on
craigslist for $15 and it works like a dream. We go for walks or jogs nearly
every day, so it was an absolute must!
9) Pack-n-Play- Many people do not need one, but we
have two large dogs who are very clumsy, and with a very limited space, it was
pretty much a must so we could rest easy that T wouldn’t be trampled. You can
find these used on Craigslist. Ours came from my lovely SIL!
10) A carrier (or two or three)- It takes most
parents several tries before they find the perfect carrier for them. We
literally used our moby every single day for the first few months. Now we have
graduated to a sling and an ergo, and I am about to buy a woven wrap. Your area
may have baby wearing meetings where thoughtful mamas get together and help you
choose the right carrier for your kiddo, so look for one of these to try
several out!
And finally, a good camera or phone that takes videos,
because you are definitely going to want to capture every little smirk, smile,
and coo!